A nice little hers-and-hers meme just for fun.
What are your middle names?
Mine is Ann and hers is Lynn.
How long have you been together?
About five+ years.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Hmm. At least two or three years.
Who asked whom out?
Terri asked me out, on a series of sneaky not-really dates. She would ask me to coffee because she 'wanted to talk with me about something' and then, once we were at the coffee place, she would say, innocently, "So, what's up?" and completely flummox me, as I was expecting HER to say something. She is a trickster. Our first real date-date was a trip to the cemetery (yes, the one we now live by), followed by lunch at our now-favorite restaurant and a trip to the library (of course).
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Probably hers, although I would LOVE to see my brother, whom I adore, more often (hint, hint!!). Too bad we live in different states, or I am sure we would see each other all the time. Did I mention that I love my brother to bits?
Which situation is hardest on you as a couple?
I don't really understand this question. Definitely having a significant illness in the house is hard. It makes lots of things that wouldn't be that hard, harder. I'm finding this a difficult question to answer for some reason -- maybe that's a good thing! We handle most everyday things very easily and naturally -- whoever is better at whichever task, does the task. I think the illness, and the accompanying varying levels of tiredness (for both of us) is the hardest.
Did you go to the same school?
No, although I would dearly love to go to the same school Terri got her Ph.D. from, and get a Mythology degree. If money were no object I would totally do that.
Are you from the same home town?
No -- Terri grew up in a military family and is mostly from San Bernardino and Pleasanton, both in California. I grew up in a very small logging town in Oregon, called Philomath.
Who is smarter?
Well, one of us is Dr. Terri, so I guess that answers that question. Actually, I think we're about even. We're both very smart in some ways and not-quite-as-smart in other ways. We are complementary. I'm better with everyday facts and how-to kinds of things. Terri is of course brilliant in psychology, anything to do with Soul, everything to do with mental and emotional health. She's also a tireless researcher, so she knows a lot of in-depth things about certain subjects.
Who is the most sensitive?
Hmm. That's difficult since we're both pretty sensitive, but probably Terri. She's almost psychic in how she can pick up what's happening with other people. She is a very sensitive and beautiful soul. That said, we're both the type to cry over commercials and sad movies/books. And we're both total therapist types (she IS a therapist).
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Probably Barney's, a hamburger place just down the street that we love. Neither of us eat meat but they have amazing gardenburgers and fries. It's dangerous having it just two blocks away now. (it's the place we went to lunch to on our first official date)
Where is the furthest you have travelled together as a couple?
We once took a road trip to the Mojave desert in Southern California to see where Terri's dad grew up. That was a great trip, although we definitely have different road-trip styles. I want the driving part to be part of the trip -- stopping and sight-seeing, poking around little towns, etc. Terri is more of the keep-driving-until-we-get-there type. At least, she was on this trip!! We do very well travelling together. I want to do more travelling as soon as we can.
Who has the craziest exes?
Hmm. Craziest? I don't know. She has one crazy ex that I know of. I probably have at least one or two crazy ones too.
Who has the worst temper?
I really don't know. I think we're kind of even here, too, in different ways. I can get very snippy, and Terri gets smouldering angry. Neither one is very nice to be a recipient of, I'm sure.
Who does the most cooking?
Let's see. That would be... me. :)
Who is the most stubborn?
Wow, again, this is really hard to answer. We've both got pretty big stubborn streaks, but I think Terri beats me on this one (except in certain circumstances). I say this only because I'm usually the first to compromise, but only because I want to move forward with whatever situation is at hand, not because I'm conceding anything! (see what I mean?)
Who hogs the bed most?
That's Katie, the cat. Katie gets 3/4 of the bed and we each get one of the outer edges.
Who does the laundry?
Terri usually does most of the laundry. For all my Virgo tendencies, I'm really sloppy with laundry. I just want to get it DONE. Terri's better about sorting and all that.
Who’s better with the computer?
That's probably me, although Terri loves computers and gadgetry WAY more than I do. I'm only better at it because I work on the computer all day and have all the graphics experience.
Who drives when you are together?
Just depends on who feels like it. Usually I do currently, since driving in Oakland can be very overstimulating. But Terri's a great driver, so we definitely take turns.